How To Pray For Lost Loved Ones

How To Pray For Lost Loved Ones

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.

-Ephesians 6:10-11

We are all familiar with the words of the motion picture director. After the work is done, after the plan is completed, after the participants have done their part, finally come the words, “Its a wrap!” In other words, it is finished. Everyone who has ever seen a movie knows intuitively when the end of the movie is near. There are signs, certain indicators, which clue us in to the fact that the script has been played out and now it is time to go.

The writer of a novel sits at his or her laptop and roughly sketches out the plan for the story. It must have an exciting beginning, an interest-keeping plot, and a stirring ending. As one reads the story, one understands they are progressing toward the end. The signs are easily recognized.

Life, created by God Himself, has a beginning. I shall never cease to be amazed at how God creates a precious new life, and brings that life into this world only to allow it to begin to die. The moment we breathe our first breath we are progressing toward our last. Someone wisely observed, the wood of the cradle rubs against the marble of the tombstone. The end of one’s life has its indicators, its signs. We tend to develop furniture disease, that is, our chest falls into our drawers. We develop the B syndrome: baldness, bulges, bifocals, and bunions. We can recognize time is slipping away.

In our world, while we can readily agree with the above statements, we cannot seem to come to grip with the same reality as it relates to God’s eternal plan for the ages. The signs surround us. The Word of God tells us how to recognize what time it is. Yet, for the most part, we plunge ahead as though this movie, this novel, our life, this world, has no end.

Now what?

So, what are we to do? I had hoped you would be asking yourself this question, because I have a few suggestions.

First, you come to grips with the reality we are, in fact, running out of time. You will want to make certain you know, not just know about, the person of Jesus Christ as the Savior and Lord of your life. Most people today say they believe in God. Yet their lives do not substantiate this as fact. The problem has to do with one’s understanding and definition of the word “believe.” The Bible says the devil “believes” in God (James 2:19), but I can assure you he isn’t going to heaven. What does it mean to “believe” in Jesus, since the Scriptures teach that the only way to be rightly related to God is through belief in Jesus as the Christ (Romans 10:9-10)? Perhaps the best way to define the word “believe” is by an illustration.

Walking a tightrope

Suppose I am a tightrope walker and you saw me perform. You were satisfied I could walk a tightrope. I then posed a question, “Do you believe I can walk the tightrope?”

You would naturally say, “Yes, I believe you can walk the tightrope, I saw you do it with my own two eyes.”

However, if I said to you, “If you believe I can walk the rope, get on my back and let me take you for a walk.”

Whoa! Wait a minute! Now we are talking about something entirely different. We are talking about your believing to the degree where action is taken. That’s it. Now you are getting it. To believe is not to utter a word or phrase with your lips. Rather ‘to believe’ demands action on one’s part. It means to demonstrate through action. To believe in Jesus means I trust in Him and Him alone for my salvation. In addition, I know Him and there is a relationship with God. That belief is demonstrated daily in my life by how I live. Please be certain you know God, not just know about Him, but know Him through the living Lord Jesus Christ. Remember it was Jesus who said,

Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father in heaven. “Many will say to me I that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ “And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’”

Matthew 7:21-23

Secondly, you will want to be certain that everyone you love and care about knows the “Good News” of Jesus. There is no way we can keep the news of forgiveness and restoration to ourselves. We want to give it away to our loved ones, even if they are not receptive. This is often the case. It is often said that the hardest people to talk to about Jesus are our loved ones. Why? Because they know us and they know we aren’t perfect. In addition, they fail to understand that when we were saved we didn’t get perfect; we got forgiven. It’s hard for unsaved folks to realize that as a follower of Jesus our lives are “under construction.” In our obedience, God is working to shape us into the image of Jesus, and that task will take the rest of our earthly lives. But let me hasten to add, if you do not care for the soul of your loved one, it is doubtful anyone else will. Therefore, I believe we have the responsibility to do all within our power under the anointing of God’s Holy Spirit to reach those we love.

Prayer and the armor of God

I want to suggest how to effectively pray for our loved ones. First, we must understand there is a spiritual battle being fought over the souls of all people. If you do not believe every person who dies without Jesus steps into a literal hell, you will never be a true prayer warrior. Once we accept this truth, we then begin to understand what the Scriptures mean:

For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

2 Corinthians 10:3-5

Here we are told that we have weapons with which to fight, but that they are unconventional. They are spiritual weapons. These spiritual weapons are used to virtually tear down strongholds that have been built up in the lives of our loved ones. What are strongholds and how are they torn down? Strongholds are those areas of our lives where we have allowed the devil to gain access. In many cases, these areas are pride, sexual addiction, fantasies, love of material things, quest for fame, acceptance, or any number of things. God says these strongholds keep one from coming to Jesus. However, we can fight against these and demolish them through intercessory prayer. This is the weapon of our faith against which no person can stand, including the demons of hell.

How do we fight the devil? The answer to this is also found in the Scriptures:

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

Ephesians 6:10-18

Here we learn that the warfare is prayer. The enemy is the devil. The objective is the stronghold in one’s life (1 Corinthians 10:3). The strategy for victory is the armor of God. We must first be willing to fight. That is, we must care enough to engage the enemy. Many simply do not have the will, the resolve to fight. We then must clothe ourselves with the armor of God. This is difficult and here’s why. We cannot put on the armor of God unless we ourselves are spiritually clean before God. This means we must be confessed up. Scripture says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). God cannot fight through a dirty vessel. Once we are clean, we can then go to battle clothed in truth. The first step is to ask God to reveal to us the particular stronghold that is keeping our loved one from Him. If we are serious about this and seek an answer from God, He will speak to our heart and supernaturally reveal the stronghold to us. Once this is identified, we then begin to apply scriptural truth against it. That is, we search for Scripture to use against the stronghold and we pray this scripture in behalf of our loved one. For example, if God reveals that a spirit of pride is the main stronghold, we can pray the following:

Dear Lord,

Your word says you hate pride and arrogance (Proverbs 8:13). That pride only breeds quarrels (Proverbs 13:10). That pride goes before destruction (Proverbs 16:18). That the cravings of a sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does, come not from the Father but from the world (1 John 2:16). Therefore in the strong and powerful name of Jesus I tear down this barrier of pride and demand that it depart from my loved one.

This is how we use the weapon of Scripture to tear down strongholds. Will the loved one embrace Jesus? He or she may not; there are no guarantees. However, once they are set free from the bondage, there is every reason to believe and claim them for the kingdom of God.

Once we are clean, once we have engaged in spiritual warfare, then it is time to boldly witness in a spirit of love. As we listen to God speak to our hearts, we will hear Him say it is time to GO. There comes a time when we must put legs to our prayers. Let me illustrate. Several years ago, my wife, Sandra came to me and said she felt it was time to go and visit a certain member of her family who lived out of state. She had been engaging in intercessory prayer for some months and now God said GO. She went, not knowing how she would be received, but in obedience and love. She phoned me within twenty-four hours to share the exciting news of how her loved one had trusted Christ and been born again. It doesn’t always work like this, but in the last few years we have now seen twenty eight (as of this writing) of our unsaved loved ones accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Why do we pray? Why do we go? Because Jesus is coming and time is running out.

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Gary Frazier
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Gary Frazier is a respected speaker and writer on the subject of Bible prophecy, current events and speaks in approximately 50-75 churches and conferences annually. He is a former pastor and has traveled to Israel more than 150 times since the 70’s.

1 Comment
  • Diana
    Posted at 20:29h, 19 May Reply

    Hi Gary,
    I enjoy reading your blog. It convicted my heart. I really need to be on serious on my knees praying for the lost love ones like my parents and many others.
    So true that our life is a battle ground not a play ground and how needful for every believers including me to put a whole armor of God all at times so we will be able to fight against the enemy.
    Once again, thank you for your ministry!

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